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Being ghosted is a sad but common part of modern dating. Sometimes ghosting someone is the safest way to end a relationship, but most of the time it’s hurtful, confusing, and just comes out of nowhere. Being ghosted is hard, whatever the circumstances, so here are 7 tips to help you deal with being ghosted.
How To Deal With Being Ghosted
1. Block Their Number and Move On
One of the hardest parts of being ghosted is the lack of closure. You’re left waiting for a reply, and even as time passes and it becomes clearer that they’re never coming back, the hope of receiving a reply still remains.
It’s important to remove this hope by blocking them on any platform you used to talk to them. You need to know there’s no chance of them ever re-entering your life in order to move on. Being ghosted is hard since you were given no control in the breakup, but blocking them is the first step to reclaiming some of the control that was taken from you.
2. Don’t Blame Yourself
There are dozens of reasons why someone might ghost you, and there’s no point speculating over which one it may have been. Instead, you should just accept that it happened and focus your energy on moving past it.
I’m a big believer in self reflection, but in my experience this isn’t the time to start exploring what you could have done differently since it will only lead to self doubt and insecurity.
3. Don’t Text or Call Them – Ever
It can be tempting to text or call to try and find the answers, but nothing good will ever come of this. If you gave them time to contact you and they didn’t, it’s best just to move on from the relationship and start a new chapter in your life.
4. Give Yourself Time To Grieve
Being ghosted is never easy. It’s often more difficult to get over than a standard breakup since it’s so sudden and you don’t know what went wrong, so you need to allow yourself some time to grieve the relationship.
In general you should give yourself at least half the duration of the relationship before you start to feel better, but in many cases you’ll need longer. Don’t let yourself think you’re broken if it takes longer than you expected to get over the relationship, but do remember that pain doesn’t last forever and you’ll eventually start to move on with time.
5. Take Care of Yourself
If there was ever a time for self care – it’s now. Cook yourself healthy meals, make sure you’re exercising and getting enough fresh air each day and force yourself to take days off when you need them.
6. Talk To Your Friends
It may be tempting to keep your situation a secret from your friends and family. Many people feel ashamed of being ghosted and it’s easy to lie to your friends about how things ended.
But you’re not alone in being ghosted, and you probably know at least one other person who’s been through the same thing as you. Make sure you include your friends in what you’re going through, and they’ll do anything they can to help.
7. Seek Professional Help
Finally, don’t be afraid to reach out to a professional if you need it. There are counselors and therapists who are trained to help you work through anything you’re feeling, and relationship troubles are as good a reason as any to seek out professional help. Similarly, if you feel you may be suffering from situational depression or something similar, be sure to see your doctor to get the best support possible.
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